Forties - suddenly you feel wheels churning from every corner
demanding a pound of flesh of you. The age where your child is attempting board
exams, at crossroads of choosing a career line and he/she insists on your time,
your body cycle reminding you of upcoming menopause, your parents ageing, their
body weakening and signalling that your vital presence is needed and your
career at its peak time waiting to spiral forward. Obviously in the midst of all pressures, your spouse tolerantly awaiting his turn.
How do you manage and what do
you sacrifice for whom?
Some would say it is a subtle
art of balancing and I have been attempting but unsuccessfully. Either the
balance shifts to the left or the right side but equilibrium is hardly
achieved. Guess these balancing tips need to be shared step by step for
beginners like us by stalwarts.
Making a choice of which
priority should take precedence is also challenging. I remember two years back
in the month of January, my father was in surgery and was in the hospital for 9
days, every day moving from school to hospital to home and at the end
exhausted. The day he got discharged, my mother in law fell down and had a
fracture. January and February are crucial months in school as all Annual
Events are usually held round at that time and somewhere trying to spread
myself thin I must have hurt my staff many a times through my temper outburst
triggered by small things. On retrospect, I now feel terrible but at that time
the focus was getting the task done by all means.
Many have advised, it is time
to give yourself more 'Me' time, it will help one to calm down. Every day I
have been isolating myself from all, talking to myself but now I feel more of a loner than before. Guess,
I am more of a people's person and I need to move out more.
Well, advices and solutions
keep pouring in and I am listening. Some say patiently wait for the 50's.
Miraculously every problem will vanish. Well, I will need to work on developing
'PATIENCE'. A virtue which is difficult to achieve. At this juncture, add ‘YOGA’
to your list too. But let me ask on a scientific note, how is being in 50’s
supposed to solve all issues? Beats me.
Thus, I am currently working
towards experimenting with varied solutions till I find the right mix. With
that achieved, you all will be the first people to know as one thing I have
learned over time is that writing what I have learned helps me become a better
person and I do wish to grow more and more. Sure, you will support me on that.
Till further notice, goodbye and have a great 40’s day.
